We started this year grateful to have made it through 2020 and vowing not to put additional pressure on ourselves in 2021. Hence, why we decided to set a new kind of New Year’s resolution that was kinder and more gentle.
Unfortunately, with everything we are living through, even gentle resolutions can be hard to stick with. What you may be pumped about on January 1st, can peter out by the 31st. With that in mind, we thought we’d do a resolution check-in, in case your motivation is waning. So, here is a list of ideas that will keep you on track to your new New Year’s resolution goals, without setting unrealistic expectations.
1) Schedule time for yourself at least 3 times per week for self-care, a hobby or to be creative. This can include:
- Bake banana bread or other types of bread (extra points for sourdough).
- Do a puzzle or crossword.
- Garden (indoors or outdoors when the weather permits) or start planting your seeds.
- Learn to/up your cooking game – tackle a new recipe.
- Learn to crochet/knit/sew.
- Start learning a new language or brush up on an old one you’ve forgotten.
- Listen to music to unwind.
- Volunteer in your community, as sometimes helping others makes us more appreciative – if you can do that safely.
- Or just chill and binge-watch tv shows (here are lists of comedies and dramas to get you started) – or movies.
- Read a book (you may even want to start a book club with your friends).
- Play a board game.
2) Don’t spread gossip
- Instead of spreading gossip and putting negativity out in the world try reaching out and connecting in a positive way. If someone is sh*t-talking someone, ask them to stop in your presence.
3) Accept you. Forego the salon services (or learn to DIY them)
- Learn how to give yourself or someone in your bubble a hair cut.
- Give yourself or someone in your bubble a manicure /pedicure.
- Give yourself a facial.
4) Reach out and connect with the people in your life
- Host/participate in a zoom cocktail party.
- Start a family email newsletter or group text to keep everyone in your extended family connected and updated.
- Or just pick up the phone and ask someone how they are doing.
5) Let yourself be comfortable
- Wear comfortable clothes and slippers.
- Try a new item like a comfortable bra, if yours is uncomfortable- we don’t have time to be uncomfortable anymore.
6) Write one gratitude statement every day
- Try journaling. Even if you feel there is nothing to report, write about the best part of your day. It can be a great meal, conversation or just being with someone. Spend time thinking about what and/or who makes the everyday better.
7) Declutter/purge your space and donate what you no longer use
- Clean out your closet(s).
- Organize your bookshelf.
- Clean the basement/garage/or wherever you tend to let clutter accumulate.
8) Listen to music more
- Attempt to learn a new instrument or start playing one you haven’t in a long time again.
- Turn off the news and put on your favourite playlist and just enjoy the music. Get up and dance if you can or just move whatever part of your body you can while sitting down.
9) Create a budget and stick to it
- Look at not going out as an opportunity to save money. It’s about helping you reframe your thinking of what you need to spend money on and what is not necessary.
- Try and pay down a credit card, even a little. Let any extra money, work for you. You’ll appreciate having the extra money rather than every latest and greatest.
10) Continue to follow all safety protocols.
- This may mean staying in if you’re under quarantine/lock down or other restrictions. There are plenty of ideas on this list to keep you busy. We can do this.
- Wash your hands using soap and water, or an alcohol-based hand rub.
- Refrain from touching your face as much as possible.
- Only go out for essential appointments or tasks and be sure to keep a safe distance from others at all times when outside your house.
- Wear a mask when you leave your house and make sure it covers your mouth and nose.
Face Mask Tip:
1) To make my disposable mask last longer, I like to wear a two layer cloth mask under my disposable three-ply mask. The cloth mask can be washed so makeup doesn’t ruin it and it doesn't get stuck in your mouth. 2) If you want extra protection, like when in a busy grocery store, I put another two layer mask over my other masks. So, I wear three masks in total and occasionally a shield, as well. You can't be too careful.
We don’t know when “normal life” (or some form of it) will return, but that doesn’t mean we can’t still live and find beauty and joy and gratitude. You just have to open your mind to it. We may not be able to go out the same but there is still plenty to keep us busy, engaged and connected and that’s the purpose of this New Year’s resolution check-in list. To help keep you on track by giving you ideas to fill the downtime without leaving your house. If you don’t have any downtime, these ideas are a reminder to carve out some time to invest in yourself. Who knows – you may come out of quarantine speaking a new language or be eager to share your new-found cooking accomplishments. Let’s make 2021 the year that we are kinder, gentler, and better to others and ourselves.
How are your resolutions going? Have you tried anything on this list? Share your resolution updates in the comments. We’d love to hear them.
Stay safe, keep well, and be kind to yourself and others.